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Ex-spouses don’t have to get along to successfully co-parent

On Behalf of | Sep 29, 2022 | Child Custody |

Those who go through a marital breakup often don’t want to see their former spouse or even talk to them, especially if the marriage ended on rocky terms. However, many separated parents in Texas choose to co-parent after their split, so completely cutting their ex out of the picture is not an option. The strong negative emotions of divorce can make it tough for one or both parents to do what is best for their children. Being pals with a former spouse isn’t realistic for some people, and that’s OK. Ex-spouses can still be great co-parents even if they’re not friends. 


In co-parenting, liking a former spouse is not required, but respecting them is. The more respectful the parental relationship, the more comfortable the children will be with their new situation. It will require a shift in perspective. The marriage is over, so it can be helpful to think of the other party as a colleague rather than a former spouse. A professional rather than an emotional response is typically the best approach. 

Open and effective communication 

Communication is one of the most important aspects of a co-parenting relationship. Understandably, communicating with an ex can also be very difficult after a breakup. Try to keep lines of communication open. Being able to check in with the other parent about the kids or when issues arise will ensure that both parties stay on the same page. However, be sure that all communication is strictly about the children and nothing else. 

Remember, this is about the children now, put former differences aside. Kids do best when they have relationships and access to both parents. Consulting a legal representative can be beneficial for parents in Texas who have questions or concerns surrounding child custody. An experienced lawyer can help guide parents through custody or parenting issues.