Making the decision to follow through with a divorce in Texas can be stressful for the adults in the dissolving marriage. When children are involved, the feelings can range from guilt to regret, to anger and hatred and everything in between. Parents can intentionally decide to make the divorce much easier on the kids by looking at the idea of co-parenting with joint custody. This decision can have lasting positive effects on the children and create a family bond that isn't tarnished by accusations and inappropriate tactics.
Telling the little ones about the divorce together will help the kids to feel like they don't have to choose sides. Allowing them to ask questions and using positive communication is a great way to help ensure that they aren't left feeling isolated and their feelings invalid. When sharing custody, parents can make sure that they do not bring up any negatives regarding the other spouse in front of the children.
Maintaining routines that were once present during the marriage can help kids feel a sense of stability and security. Keeping up with scheduled meetings and custody transfers will also help to build a sense of normalcy after the divorce. Being polite and friendly with the other parent is also important. Letting the children know that it is ok to spend time with the ex-spouse is crucial for the kids in continuing to build a positive relationship with that parent.
A divorce can be emotionally draining, time consuming and very expensive. When children are involved, the stakes are even higher. Many Texas parents are able to implement a joint custody plan that is agreeable to all parties involved. When this isn't the case, each parent can obtain the advice of a separate family law attorney who will advocate for them as they pursue a course of action that is in the best interest of the children.
Source: hitchedmag.com, "How to Talk to Your Child About Divorce", David J. Glass, July 17, 2017